tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205757825330984845.post1389695579590884552..comments2023-03-22T16:24:39.837+05:30Comments on Dew Drops-where my thoughts sojourn!: Unheard voice of a woman!Anusha L Shttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15776685939969276367noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205757825330984845.post-84236382645007549022016-03-08T20:44:41.178+05:302016-03-08T20:44:41.178+05:30I liked your writing and its really very true anal...I liked your writing and its really very true analysis!! Agreed with almost all the points however few questions came to my mind. Thanks for such a articulated post. <br />Most of the questions you raised is because we have lived in patriarchal society. So there is a need to change the society. Only changing the symptoms cannot treat the root problem of inequality built over ages. However, even today women seem to be supporting patriarchal trend. <br /><br />Contrary to your view, I have noticed only few women are ready to help their parents and brothers and assume that its only the responsibility of a boy. Why? Why house-hold work is considered inferior by our society including women? How many women can feel proud on her husband if he is sitting at home and working hard? <br />Your view on "surname" and of course for children names is a good question and probably its answer lie in biology, genetics and history.... However, I do not support this in favor of social justice. It might have been started to make address, paperwork easy and to avoid confusion by saying simply "Mr. and Mrs. XYZ". I can say husband can also change the name as its only the label is changing and package does not. Earlier it was started for identification purpose not for identity. <br />Its possible that our ancestors had realized that women move to her husband's house after marriage is best because the quality such as adaptability is more for women. So she can adjust with the new situations very fast compared to men adjusts with a new circumstance. However, this should not be reducing to only one family. <br /><br />I believe that women will take lead role in family and change the system with time, however they are not doing this enough now. <br />[My all the ideas are on majority of observations and exceptions are always there.] Wageesh Mishrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14477364362992621368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205757825330984845.post-19078669072272095742016-03-08T17:58:08.328+05:302016-03-08T17:58:08.328+05:30Thank you for this comment. But I should write her...Thank you for this comment. But I should write here that you have primitive ideas on this whole topic! <br /><br />For your point on Durga, I am a scientist. I don't believe in God! And the stories on maa Durga are written by human beings like me and you.<br /><br />For your point on household work I never said it is of less importance. I said for working women they can't do everything both inside and outside. It helps a lot, if man extends a helping hand. If a woman chooses to be at home instead to go out and work it is fine. But she should not be taken for granted. But I know many men who think that if they share household work they are ashamed of it. What the society thinks of them? My point was it is men who think household work is inferior.<br /><br />You are extremely biased in thinking that children grow up with their mother. I don't know which part of the world you are from, but it is obvious for me that both mother and father are important for a kid. I am more like my father.<br /><br />It is not always that women expect man to appreciate. I am concentrating here on the aspect of respect not appreciation. Disrespecting and not appreciating are two different things. On the one hand, who doesn't need appreciation. If you are not appreciated at work and your boss says that you do your duty because you like it, you won't be paid for your work, would you go to work the next day? On the other hand disrespecting is a completely different thing. What worries me is that women are taken for granted for these and they are overlooked in the society. They are labeled for motherhood and are deprived from following their dreams. Wake up!<br /><br />For your point on self-respect, of course it is not to be given. But when a woman sticks to what she believes, society opposes and tries to hurt her and her self-respect! It takes lot of energy to swim opposite to the river flow than to swim along with it. When society opposes, it is like swimming against the stream. If the society supports it, it feels much better, and she can concentrate on other things instead of getting distracted from this kind of pain!!!<br />Anusha L Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15776685939969276367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5205757825330984845.post-48734359033927366742016-03-08T11:52:41.996+05:302016-03-08T11:52:41.996+05:30I think you should do more research in this topic....I think you should do more research in this topic. I think you know that the ultimate god in Hindu is maa gurga. Then why she (women) is made to change her house after marriage? Even today, eldest women in the family controls the family. Every bahu complain about her saas not the sasur!!!!!! Why? Who says doing household works inferior to any other works? My answer is women are good managers and can do any work if they think. So they manage home which is the building block of the society. The children grow up with their mother. What they are when they are grown up mostly rest on their mother. Don't you think this is the most difficult work in the world. After doing all these, women feel that they are not respected. This is mainly because they expect that men should appreciate them for what they are doing. Men are men. Don't know to appreciate. Women feel sad for that. Over a period of time this converts into helplessness. If you start doing the things for you then these problems will automatically solve. First and the foremost is that do not expect. Do the work which you only feel like to do. If you cook today that means you feel like cooking. Don't cook if don't like. Self respect is not the one to be given. It is to be taken. Have fun.L. S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01077463869412430139noreply@blogger.com